What are ablest micro-aggressions?
Many people don’t mean to be insulting, and a lot have good intentions, but even well-meant comments and actions can take a serious toll on their recipients.
Micro-aggressions are everyday verbal or behavioral expressions that communicate a negative slight or insult in relation to someone’s gender identity, race, sex, disability, etc. In the case of ableism:
• “That’s so lame.”
• “You are so retarded.”
• “That guy is crazy.”
• “You’re acting so bi-polar today.”
• “Are you off your meds?”
• “It’s like the blind leading the blind.”
• “My ideas fell on deaf ears.”
• “She’s such a psycho.”
• “I’m super OCD about how I clean my apartment.”
• “Can I pray for you?”
• “I don’t even think of you as disabled.”
What can we do to recognize and avert ableism?
• Believe people when they disclose a disability
• Similarly, don’t accuse people of ‘faking’ their disability
• Listen to people when they request an accommodation
• Don’t assume you know what someone needs
• Never touch a person with a disability or their mobility equipment without consent
• Keep invasive questions to yourself
• Don’t speak on behalf of someone with a disability unless they explicitly ask you to
• Talk about disability with children and young people
• Incorporate accessibility into your event planning